This title makes me sound like I am a physicist or something. I assure you that I am not. However, I am quite in-tune with human emotions and behavior. While I’m now in marketing, my first love has always been psychology and sociology. What makes people do the things that they do? Why do certain groups form? How and why do people choose to interact the way that they do?
I think that we all should question ourselves occasionally. Why are we putting in extra hours? Why do we love (hopefully) what we call work? What is the source of our motivation? What are we trying to accomplish? It’s cliché to say stop and smell the roses, but it’s human nature to get caught up in all of the projects and responsibilities that we have. It’s not human nature (at least not mine) to actually take time to be a part of our everyday experiences. I’m still working on this myself, so, please do not assume that I am speaking from an enlightened state. Nope. This is more of a philosophical blog.
I suppose what I’m getting at is that our lives are made up of a never-ending (well it does end at sometime) series of moments and like the saying, “You learn more from your loses than you do from your victories” speaks to, at every moment of our lives, we are either winning or losing the moment. Since no one that I know of is “winning” at every moment (with the exception of Charlie Sheen), I think it makes sense to reflect on our experiences. Here’s the kicker. You can’t reflect on something if you haven’t truly experienced it.
Maybe we don’t want to question ourselves. Maybe we’re afraid of the answers we might find. I’m sure that I wouldn’t be completely satisfied with all of my responses, but if you don’t uncover areas you can improve on, you’ll never reach your full potential. The lesson here is that in all aspects of your life (faith, family, social, work) we should all be striving to improve. Personally, I’d like to be a better teammate at work. I’m pretty sure most of us would agree that being liked is nice and being respected is even better, but how many times are we actively assessing our interactions with others? How can we create a rapport with people if we aren’t honest with ourselves about how we are treating or leading others.
So, the question is this: How much energy are we putting into “doing” compared to the amount we put into the assessment of the things we do? My guess is that for myself and many others, there is an imbalance in favor of the former compared to the latter. What do you think? Do you have any tips or tricks? How can we better assess ourselves? Let me know by leaving a comment.