Hey there. I know you’re not a frequent reader because I haven’t updated my blog in 2+ years, but guess what, today something hit me so hard that I thought I should share my thoughts. You may disagree. You might even agree. It doesn’t matter. I’m right about this. If you disagree, please take a bit longer to examine your thought process.
I’ve selected an image to be attached to this post. Honestly, I am disturbed that it exists and I had a hard time taking a screenshot of it because all I could think of was that I may also be contributing to the problem I am about to dive further into.
The title of this blog is misleading. It’s not when memes go wrong, it’s when people go wrong. I go wrong a lot. I know it. Most people know it and I’m not denying it. So please, don’t take me for a hypocrite. One thing I do know is that I NEVER joke about mental health.
Chris Cornell. Chris Cornell died this week. He left this earth and he left behind groundbreaking music, but he also left behind three children and a wife that he adored. By all accounts, Chris had everything you and I have probably ever wanted, but he had something else that some of us might deal with day to day, some others might have a family member who fights their illness day-to-day and others may have never experienced depression, a mood disorder or any other type of “mental illness”.
By now, you’ve read a lot. Here is my point. If you walk by three people a day, statistically one of those people has had or will have a depressive “episode” in their life. As a side note, I am using quotation marks when I must use terms that I do not agree with.
Chris Cornell did end his own life. This is a fact. Aaron Hernandez (the football player convicted of 1st-degree murder) also killed himself inside his prison cell. Both of these HUMAN BEINGS had nothing in common with the exception on the Hollywood limelight.
To compare these tragic events in the hopes of a few Facebook Reactions, Twitter RT’s or whatever is completely insensitive and one of the key indicators of why our (the American) society continues to trot along with blinders on our eyes to the real issues we must first address.
- Please stop using other people’s misfortune to gain a laugh, promote your product or further your own selfish initiatives.
- Suicide is NOT an issue of someone taking their own life. Suicide is the sometimes sudden, but other times prolonged process of brain chemicals causing a person to experience various levels of suicidal thoughts and/or depressive/manic episodes.
- People who struggle with a mental health diagnosis are ill. Some may be ill for a short time, others may battle their illness their entire life. NO ONE ever makes fun of someone battling cancer, but in less than 48 hours people have created memes about a HUMAN BEING ending their life. Correction, what I should have said is that a HUMAN BEING’s illness finally became insurmountable and they succumbed to it.
If you’re reading this and you feel like it is an attack on you, it isn’t. This image and cultural appropriation runs rampant in our society. It must be stopped. I am just sharing my thoughts because I fight a struggle myself. I don’t know what struggle Chris Cornell fought. For that matter, I don’t know what battle(s) Kurt Cobian, Layne Staley, Bradley Nowell and so many others have fought. You can read the articles and call it drug addiction, but please know that addiction is a mental health diagnosis and often the after effect of a pre-existing mental health diagnosis and they call is co-morbidity. Look it up.
Anyhow, please just stop it. There are a lot of funny and often hilarious things that take place in life. Unfortunately, there are also very sad and tragic things that take place every day, too. We know about the more tragic events because of a thing we call, “the news”.
With social media, we can be the NEW news. We can share the positive. We can discuss issues and we can also debate. Unfortunately, we can also make light of serious situations. We can jest at others misfortune knowing that they may never see it but we may forget that the loved ones left behind may see it.
I know I’ve done my fair share of making light of others misfortunes before and I am confident that if you go back in my FB history you will probably find more than one instance of this immature behavior and I will likely be a hypocrite in someone’s eyes in the future, but for some reason this issue just really hit me hard.
I could write nonsensically all day. Trust me, I could. At the end of the day, I am writing this because it’s cathartic and I hope that it will change my future behavior and maybe someone else’s. For the last 72 hours or so I can’t tell you how many times I have listened and viewed some of Chris Cornell’s YouTube videos. I am thankful that we all have those to remember him by.
Thanks for reading.